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育儿

自驱力:不焦虑家长的方法论

作者:admin 2020-10-29 我要评论

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不焦虑并不代表忽视教育,不追求考试成绩也不代表家长们不想把孩子培养成一个优秀的人。跟标准化的育儿方式相比,其实不焦虑意味着动更多脑筋、有耐心和承担压力。

不焦虑的家长并不是忽视教育

 

拒绝焦虑的家长

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自新冠疫情暴发以来,世界各地多校停课,学生无法回到学校继续学习,让一些家长感到焦虑和迷茫

 

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兴趣是孩子最好的驱动力

 

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(插图 范薇)

 

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上名校就幸福吗?

ZHEIXIEJIAZHANGBUBAXUEXICHENGJIZUOWEIJIAOYUDEHEXIN,YEYINWEITAMENDUICHENGGONGDELIJIE、DUIHAIZIDEQIXUBUTAIYIYANG。YINAGUANCHADAO“SHANGMINGPAIDAXUEDUIMINGYUNDEYINGXIANGMEIYOUCONGQIANNEIMEDA”,QISHIYOUSHUJUSHANGDEZHICHI。《“LONGMEN”ZHIHOU:DANGDAIZHONGGUODAXUEZHONGDEJIAOYUFENCENG》ZHONGYINYONGDESHUJUBIAOMING,CONG1978NIANDAO2017NIAN,WOGUOGAODENGJIAOYUMAORUXUELVCONG2.7%ZENGJIADAO45.7%。GENJUGUOJIYIBANBIAOZHUN,GAODENGJIAOYUMAORUXUELVZAI15%YIXIASHUYUJINGYINGJIAOYUJIEDUAN,15%DAO50%WEIGAODENGJIAOYUDAZHONGHUAJIEDUAN,50%YISHANGWEIGAODENGJIAOYUPUJIHUAJIEDUAN。WOMENDEGAODENGJIAOYUYIJINGKUAIYAOJINRUPUJIHUAJIEDUAN,DAXUEWENPINGDEJIAZHIGENWOMENCONGQIANYINXIANGZHONGDEXIANGBI,DADAJIANGDILE。

YIXIEJIAZHANGZUOWEIGAOKAODESHOUYIZHE,ZAIZHICHANGSHANGJINGFENGYU、JIANSHIMIANDUONIAN,KANFAQUESHIHUIFASHENGGAIBIAN。SUXIAOSHIYIJIADASHUJULINGYUDUJIAOSHOUGONGSIDEPINPAIZONGJIAN,GONGZUOZHONGJIECHUDAOHENDUOYINWEIHULIANWANGHEGAOKEJIERSHIXIANJIECENGKUAYUEDEREN。TABINGBUBAXUEXIHAOHESHIYECHENGGONG、RENSHENGXINGFUKANCHENGYINGUOGUANXI。“SHOUXIANSHINIYOUMEIYOUJIHUI,QICIYOULEJIHUINENGBUNENGBAWOZHU。JIECENGYUESHENGSHIHENDUOYINSUCUCHENGDE,WODUIHAIZIDEQIWANGSHITAYAODONGDEZENMEXINGFUDIGUOYISHENG。DADUOSHURENSHIXIANGDUIPINGYONGDE。WOHELAOGONGXUEWUYEZAIZHEILIMIAN,ZHIBUGUOWOMENXIWANGZIJIKAIXINYIDIAN。SUIRANWOMENNIANJIJIANZHANG,KEWOMENDEYUELI、SHIYE、PANDUANBINIANQINGSHIHAOLE,WOMENJIUHENKAIXIN。WOMENYIJIUXIANG20SUIYIYANG,DUIHENDUOWEIZHIDEDONGXICHONGMANKEWANG,KANHENDUOSHU,YEHENKAIXIN。”SUXIAOSHUO。

SUXIAOHEXUEWUSHICHENGZHANGXINGSIWEI,BUBAJIEHUNSHENGZIKANZUORENSHENGZHONGDIAN,BURENWEIHUOZHEJIUSHIYIHAIZIWEIZHONGXIN,SHENZHIRANGHAIZIWEILAISHIXIANZIJINIANQINGSHIDEMENGXIANG。XUEWUSHUO:“WOMENDEJIECENGHENNANSHIXIANKUAYUEXINGDETISHENG,KEBINGBUYINGXIANGWOMENHAIZAINULIJINBU。”ZHEIXIEDUIRENSHENGDEKANFA,TAMENZAIRICHANGLIAOTIANZHONGHUIFENXIANGJIHAIZI。XUEWUDAIZHEHAIZICONGXIAOXUEWEIQI,TAGENERZILIAOCHENGGONGDEHANYI,SHUO:“KEJIEWEISHANENGNAGUANJUN,BUSHITAYIDINGNENGGOUZHANSHENGLINGWAIYIGEREN,ERSHISHENGLV。BISAIHECHENGGONGDOUSHIGAILVWENTI,MEIRENNENGBAOZHENGCHENGGONG,ZHINENGBAOZHENGGAILV。”BACHENGGONGKANZUOGAILV,BACHENGZHANGKANZUOYIJIANZHONGSHENDESHIQING,SUXIAOHEXUEWUJIUBUJIAOLVLE。SUXIAOSHUO:“ERZIYI、ERNIANJICHENGJIBUHAO,RENDEYISHENGHENZHANG,YI、ERNIANJISHENZHIZHISHIZHENGGEXIAOXUEDEYIDUANERYI,DUIZHENGTIMEINEIMEZHONGYAO。CHENGJIBUHAO,WOMENHUIKANNENGBUNENGBANGTAJIEJUEYIXIEWENTI,KEGENGZHONGYAODESHI,WOMENZAIYICONGXIAOPEIYANGTADEHAOXIGUAN、HAOPINGE。”

JIBIANXIWANGHAIZIYAOWEIJINXIUQIANCHENGZUOZHUNBEI,XUEXICHENGJIYEBUSHIWEIYIDETIAOJIAN。YANHUAZAIGONGSILIYAODAITUANDUI,SHENGHUOZHONGYEGENCHURUZHICHANGDENIANQINGRENJIECHU,JITAMENYIJIAN。CONGWEILAIZHICHANGSHANGXUYAODEYOUXIUSUZHILAIKAN,JIAOYUDEZHONGDIANZAIYUPINGEHEFEIRENZHINENGLI。TASHUO:“WOMENJIALIANGGEHAIZI,BUGUANXUEBUXUEXI,YOUXIEJIBENDONGXIWOJUEDEGENGZHONGYAO,BIRUYAOFUZEREN,NIZIJIDESHIYAOZUOCHEDI,HAIYOUJIUSHILEGUANHEZIXIN。WOFAXIANBUZIXINDUIYIGERENDEYINGXIANGMANDADE。”DANVERCANJIALEXUEXIAODELEDUI,JINIANXIALAILUXUYOUTONGXUEFANGQI。YANHUADENVERDUILEDUIYESHIQULEXINGQU,YANHUASHUO:“WOGAOSUTAFANGQIDEHUA,LEDUIJIUQUERENLE。ZHEIGESHIHOUNIJIBIANZAIBUXIHUAN,YEDEDANXIALAI。WOMENBUNENGRANGLEDUISANJIA。”DUIFENSHUYAOQIUBUGAO,YESHICONGZHANGXIANQUKAOLV。YANHUASHUO:“XIAOHAIZINENGDA80FEN,ZHISHIKENDINGZHANGWOLE。WEILEBUCHUCUOBIZHESHUATI,HUIXIANZHITADESIWEIXIANGWAITUOZHAN。WODEXIAONVERXUEXIBUTAIHAO,KETAXIHUANTANSUO,ZHEIZHONGHAOQIXINTEBIEZHIDEBEIBAOHUQILAI。SHEHUIQUEFADEJIUSHIQUCHUANGXINHECHANGSHIDEREN。WOBUNENGBIZHETASHUATIJIUWEILETIGAOCHENGJI,BURANGTAQUSIKAOLUANQIBAZAODEWENTI。TATIANTIANZAIYUANZILIYANJIUXIAOCHONGZI,TAMINGZIDEZUIHOUYIGEZISHINUO,XIAOPENGYOUHANTAFABUNUO,WOJUEDEZHEITEBIEBAOGUI。LAODADANZIDA,AIMAOXIAN,ANQUANWENTIRANGRENCAOXIN。KEZAISHANGYESHANG,MAOXIANJINGSHENSHIHENZHONGYAODETEZHI。”

赵蔚很注重培养孩子的独立性(黄宇 摄)

 

 

ZHAOYUDEERZIMASHANGDAXUEBIYE,TASHIZHONGDUIHAIZIMEIYOUGONGLIXINGDEYAOQIU,ERSHIXIWANGTACHENGWEIYIGENEIXINCHONGYING、ZIXIN、YOUQUDEREN。XIANZAIYIJINGKANDAOXIAOGUO。ZHAOYUSHUO:“ZHAOGONGZUOKENDINGSHIYOUYALIDE,DANTAMEIWENTI。TAZUOSHIHENRENZHEN、ZHUANZHU,RUGUOZHAODAOYIFENXIHUANDEGONGZUO,HAODUOTEZHIDOUYOUDEFAHUI。WOMENTIANTIANZAIZHICHANG,DOUHUIZHIDAOZHEIYANGDENIANQINGRENBUHUIZHAOBUDAOHAOGONGZUO,BUHUIMEIYOUHAOSHIYEDE。”TAYIZHIHENZHONGSHIPEIYANGERZIDULIJIEJUEWENTIDENENGLI。WUNIANJISHI,ERZIZHUANQUQUANYINGWENSHOUKEDESILIXUEXIAO。“WOMENYUQIJITA6GEYUEDAO1NIANDESHIJIANQUSHIYING,MEIXIANGDAOTAHUALE3GEYUEDESHIJIANJIUNENGTINGDONG80%DENEIRONG。BANSHANGYOUGETONGXUESHIMALAIXIYAHUAYI,HUIJIANGHANYU,TAGENNEIGETONGXUEZUOPENGYOU。HAIZIRUGUOXIANGXUEXI,TAZIJIHUIXIANGHENDUOBANFA。”DAXUELI,ZHAOYUDEERZIMEIGEZHOULIUDOUZAIXUEXIAOCANTINGZUOZAOWUCAN,JIANCHILEYIGEXUEQI。“TASHUO,DAXUELIDOUYAOSHEJIAO,YAOBUJIUQUGENRENHEJIU,YAOBUJIUQUCANJIASHETUAN,ERTAYONGZUOFANDEFANGSHI,JIEJUELEZHEIGEWENTI。ZUOWANFAN,CHULAIWENDAJIAHAOBUHAOCHI,BUTONGNIANJI、BUTONGXINGQUDERENJIUDOURENSHILE。TASHIJISUIJIUZAIJIAZUOFANLE,YONGZIJISHANZHANGDEFANGFAJIEJUEWENTI。”

YINWEIYISHIDAOHAIZIZAISHEHUISHANGLIZUXUYAODESUZHIHENDUOSHIXUEXIAOBUJIAODE,ZHAOYUCHUANGLILEQIXINGYINGDIJIAOYU,YONGZHUTIYINGHUI、XIAXIAODENGFANGSHIBAHAIZIMENJUZAIYIQI,PEIYANGTAMENDEFEIRENZHINENGLI。BIRUZHENDUI4SUIDAO6SUIHAIZIDEXIJUYING,TONGGUOYUEDUHUIBEN、BIAOYANXIJUDENGFANGSHI,RANGHAIZIRENZHIRENLEIDEJISHIZHONGQINGXU,YIJIGANSHOUQINGXUHEBIAODAQINGXU。TONGGUOZHEIYANGDEKECHENG,JIAQIANGHAIZIDEZHUANZHULI、TIGAOSHEJIAONENGLIHEPEIYANGXITONGSIWEINENGLI。JIAOSHIDEQIANGSHANGHAITIELEYIXIEKAPIAN,QIANYIMOHUADIYINGXIANGHAIZIDESIWEI。BIRU,ZAIJIAOHAIZIHUANGEJIAODUKANWENTISHI,KAPIANSHANGXIE“ZHEITAINANLE”,KEYIHUANGESIWEI,“WOKENENGXUYAOGENGDUODESHIJIANHEJINGLICAINENGGAODING”;“WOBUKENENGXIANGTAYIYANGCONGMING”,KEYIHUANGESIWEI,“TASHIZENMEZUODE,WOYEYAOSHISHIKAN”。HUOZHE,YONGTIEKAPIANDEFANGSHIJIAOHAIZILIJIEGUIZE:WOMENYAOTINGDUIFANGSHUOHUA;SHOUSHIYONGLAIBANGZHUDE,BUSHIYONGLAISHANGHAIDE;WOMENYAOZAIHUSHUANGFANGDEGANSHOU;WOMENYAODUIWOMENSHUODEHEZUODEFUZEREN。7SUIDAO18SUIDEHAIZI,KEYICANJIAGUONEIGUOWAIDEZHUSUYINGHUI。ZHAOYUSHUO:“HENDUOHAIZIDOUSHIJIAZHANGSONGDAOJIHEDIAN,RANHOUTAMENZIJIZUODABAQUYINGDI,SHENZHIYIXIEWAIDIHAIZIZIJIZUOHUOCHE、FEIJILAI。ZHEIXIEHUODONGDUANLIANLETAMENDEDULINENGLI。”

ZHAOYUDEERZIYEZAIYINGDIZHANGDA。TASHUO:“BIEDEHAIZISHUJIAKENENGQUBUXIBAN,WOERZISHIQUYINGDIGANHUO。TA14SUIKAISHIJIUBANGWOZUOFANYI,GUOWAITEBIEYOUZHIDEJIAOYUHUIYIKAIHENDUOGONGZUOFANG,WOJIURANGTAQUTING,HUILAIJIWOJIANGDOUSHIXIESHENMENEIRONG。ZONGCANJIAZHEIYANGDEHUODONG,TAGENBUTONGNIANLING、BUTONGGUOJIADERENDAJIAODAODENENGLIJIUDUANLIANCHULAILE。ZAIDAYIDIAN,TAJIUZAIGUOWAIYINGDIDANGDAOSHI,GENCHENGNIANREN、DAXUESHENGHEZUO,GUANLIHENDUOHAIZI。”ZHAOYUDEERZI16SUIDUZICONGBEIJINGQUYINGGUOSHANGGAOZHONG,18SUIZIJIXUANDAXUE,WANCHENGSHENQING。“WOQUESHIJUEDERENJIAYIZHIDOUSHIKAOZIJI,DAXUEYESHITAZIJIXUANDE,ZUIHOUGAOSUWOMENXIANGSHANGYIGEWENLIXUEYUAN。SHENQINGDAXUEDENEITIANWANSHANG,TABABA12DIANSHUIDE,WO2DIANSHUIDE,TAZAOSHANG6DIANDUOCAISHUI。WOMENSANGERENZAIBUTONGDEDIFANG,WOZAIWEIXINQUNLIWEN,ZENMEYANGLE,CAILIAODOUDIJIAOLEMA?TASHUO:‘MEISHIER,NIMENKEYISHUILE。’”ZHAOYUSHUO。

2019年5月,江苏省南通市第十届小学生智力运动会上,参赛小选手进行围棋比赛(视觉中国供图)

 

不焦虑的原生家庭

DUIHAIZIDECHENGJIBUJIAOLV,QISHIYEGENJIAZHANGZIJIDECHENGZHANGJINGLIHESIWEIFANGSHIYOUGUAN。TANGLALANENGJIESHOUERZIYUWENKAO19FEN,YINWEITAMEIYOUBACANJIAGAOKAOZUOWEIYIGEMUBIAO。“WOBAQIWANGZHIFANGDEHENDI,HAIZIKENENGGENBENKAOBUSHANGDAXUE,JIUSHIYIGEJICENGGONGREN。YINWEIWODUITADECHENGZHANGMEIYOUKPI,BUHUIYINGSAIJITADONGXI。WOXIWANGTAZIJICHENGZHANGDAOYIDINGCHENGDU,BIRUTAXIANGCHENGWEISHENMEYANGDEREN,ZUOSHENMEYANGDESHI,NEIXINYUANWANGFEICHANGQIANGLIE,ZIRANJIUQUZUOLE。ZHEIGEKENENGWEILAIERSANSHINIANCAINENGXIANXIANCHULAI,DANZHEIGUOCHENGZHONGQIAOWUSHENGXIDIYIJINGZUOCHUYIXIEGAIBIAN。”TANGLALASHUO。CHULEXUEXIBUHAO,TANGLALADEERZITEBIETAOQI。“WOERZIJIUSHIBIERENYANLIBIAOZHUNDEXIONGHAIZI。TADAGAI3SUIDESHIHOU,JIUYOUPENGYOUYOUXINCHONGCHONGDISHUO:‘NIXIANZAIBUGUAN,ZHANGDAGAIZENMEBAN。’WOXINLIFEICHANGQINGCHU,WOYOUBIANJIE,BIERENDEBIANJIEKENENGSHIFANGZINEIMEDA,WODESHIZUQIUCHANG。BIRUSHANGDAOYOUERYUANDABAN,JIAZHANGTURANFAXIANHAIZISAHUANG,JIUBENGKUILE。WOERZICONGLAIBUSAHUANG,SAHUANGDOUSHIPAJIAZHANGZEBEI,WOERZIMEIYOUSAHUANGDEBIYAOTIAOJIAN。”ZAIZHEIZHONGZIYOUZHUYIDEHUANJINGLIZHANGDA,“ZHEIGEHAIZIXINLIYOUREQING,REQINGJIUSHIYIGERENNEIXINDEYUANDONGLI,KEYIQUZUORENHESHIQING。BIRU,BIERENJUEDEWOERZIYOULIMAO,QISHIWOCONGLAIMEIJIAOTA。TAJIUSHIXIHUANREN,JIANDAORENJIUGAOXING。BUXIANGYOUDEHAIZIJIANDAORENSHIMIANWUBIAOQINGDIWENHAO,ZHISHIZHIXINGLEJIAZHANGYAOQIUDESHEJIAOGUIZE”。

TANGLALAZIJIJIUSHIZHEIYANGZHANGDADE。“WOSHI70NIANDAISHENGREN,NEIGENIANDAIHENDUOFUMUSHICUBAODE,DANWOCONGMEIYOUAIGUOMA,MEIYOUBEIFUMUFOUDINGGUO,WANQUANSHIXINGFUCHENGZHANG。FUMUYITIANYEMEIYOUYAOQIUWOXUEXI,WOKAOSHANGLEDAXUE,KAOSHANGLEYANJIUSHENG。”TANGLALABUSHIBIAOZHUNDEHAOXUESHENG,LAIZILAOSHIDEYALIBEIFUMUDIDANGLE。“WODAODAXUEDESHIHOUCAIZHIDAO,ZHONGXUELAOSHICENGJINGYINWEIWOKANKEWAISHU,ZHAOGUOJIAZHANG。TONGCHANGQINGKUANGSHIJIAZHANGHUIJIAZHISHAOHUIGENHAIZISHUOYIXIA,NEIGENIANDAIHAOXIEJIAZHANGJIANHAIZIKANKEWAISHUJIUYAOSISHU,XIEDERIJIYEYAOSHAOLE。ERWOMALIANTIDOUMEITI。TAHOULAISHUO,TAJUEDEKANKEWAISHUSHIZHUDONGXUEXI,NENGHUODEEWAIDEZHISHI。WODUIERZIDELIJIEHEJIAOYUFANGSHIJIUYUANYUWOMADUIWODELIJIEHEJIAOYU。”

10月8日,江苏宿迁市某跆拳道培训班的学生在做横踢训练(视觉中国供图)

 

BAIFENZHIBAIZIYOUDEJIAOYUYOUQUEXIANMA?TANGLALAJUEDEFEIYAOSHUODEHUA,SHIWANSHU。30SUIYIQIAN,TANGLALAMEIYOUZHENGGUOYIFENQIAN,ZHENGTIANCHIHEWANLE。“WOMEIGEYUEZHIYOUYILIANGBAIKUAIQIANDESHENGHUOFEI,CHIROUJIUSHIMAIYIKUAIWUDEJIJIAAOYIGUOTANG。KEWOKAIXINYA,QINGCHUNYITIANDOUMEIYOUHUANGFEI,WANDEBIBIERENDUO,TEBIESHUANG。”TANGLALASHUO。ZHEIZHONGZHUANGTAIZAIQITARENYANLISHIFEICHANGLINGRENDANYOUDE。TANGLALAMEIYOUGONGZUO,MEIYOUZUJIANWENDINGDEJIATING,FULAOXIANGQINDOUZHIZETABUDONGSHI,KEFUMUYIJIUMEIYOUCUIBI。TANGLALASHUO:“WOMAMANGMUDIXINRENWO,RANGWOMANGMUDIZIXIN。ZHEIZHONGZIYANGZAI30SUIYIHOUYUELAIYUEXIANLUCHUHOUJING。WODUIZIJIDERENZHIYUELAIYUEQINGCHULE,CAIYOULEYINGDUISHIJIESHANGYIQIESHIQINGDENENGLI,FOUZETEBIERONGYISUIBOZHULIU,BIERENYISHUOGESHENME,JIUHUANGLE。WODEKANGYAXINGTEBIEQIANG,HAIYOUDAJIAYANLIDELEGUAN,ZHEIXIEDOUSHIYOUYUANTOUDE,YUANSHENGJIATINGDADEDIZIHOU。”TANGLALA40SUIYIHOUCAIKAISHILIANXUGONGZUO,ZHEIXIEJINGLICHENGLETADUIERZIDEXINXIN,MOUSHENGMEINEIMENAN。“WOGENTONGLINGRENXIANGBI,SUOYOUSHIQINGQIBUDOUWAN,KEYEMEIYOULUOPOJIETOU。WOZAIBEIJINGFANGZIYEYOU,CHEYEYOU,XILIHUTUGAIYOUDEDOUYOULE。”TANGLALASHUO。

YANHUAZHUZAIHAIDIANQU,BENLAITEBIERONGYIBEIJIAOLVQIFENGANRAN,KETADUIJIAOYUHENYOUZHUJIAN,ZHEIYELAIZITADECHENGZHANGJINGLI。TAMEIMAIXUEQUFANG,ERSHIXUANLEJULITAGONGSIYIGONGLIDELOUPAN。YINWEIYANHUAJUEDEHAIZIZAIXUEXIQIBUJIEDUANGENGXUYAODESHIJIAZHANGBANGZHUYANGCHENGHAOXIGUAN,TAJIESHENGDETONGQINSHIJIANKEYIHUAZAIHAIZISHENSHANG。TABUDANXINJIAOXUEZHILIANG。“XIANZAIDABUFENLAOSHISHIBENKEHUOZHEYANJIUSHENGBIYE,JIAOXIAOXUEZHEIDIANZHISHIMEIWENTI。XUEQUFANGKENENGJIHUIBIJIAODUO,BIRUXUEYINLESHENMEDE。RUGUOZHISHIXIWANGHAIZISHENXINJIANKANGCHENGZHANG,PUTONGXUEXIAOJIUGOULE。”YANHUABUDANXINXIAOSHENGCHUHUAPIAN。“PIANQUYOUYIGEDAJIAKOUZHONGJICHADEZHONGXUE,DANYEYOUHAIZIKAOSHANGQINGHUAFU、BEIDAFU。WOJIALAODABIJIAOSHANGJIN,TAZIJIHUIQUDATINGZENMEQUHAOXUEXIAO,ZENMEHUAPIAN。WOSHUO,NIYAOZUOHAOZHUNBEI,NENGQU‘LIUXIAOQIANG’KENDINGHAO,QUBULEYEMEIGUANXI。NIJIUSHANGJIAMENKOUDEZHONGXUE,RUGUOYIRANBAOCHILINGXIAN,NIJIANGLAIKENDINGCHABULE。”

YANHUADELAOJIAZAIYIGEXIAOCHENGSHI,ZHIYOUYISUOZHONGDIANGAOZHONG,CHONGMANLEJINGZHENGRUHEJILIEDECHUANSHUO。YANHUASHUO:“TINGBIERENJIANGSHIHENHERENDE,SHUOYOUGEDAJIEJIEWEILEKAOSHANGZHEISUOXUEXIAOJIGEYUEBUXITOU,WANSHANGAOYEZHILEI。WOZHONGKAODESHIHOU,JUEDEXITOUHUABULEDUOZHANGSHIJIAN,WANQUANKEYIXI。AOYEDIERTIANJINGSHENBUHAO,WOYEBUAOYE。ZHIYAORENRENZHENZHENXUEXI,WOYEKAOSHANGLE,BUZHIYUSHUOYOUDUONAN。WOYIZHIJIUMEIXIANGMINGBAICHUANSHUOZHONGDEZHEIXIEDONGXI。”KONGJUHENDUODOUSHIXIANGXIANGCHULAIDE。YANHUAJUEDEXUEXIAOHAOBUHAO、JINGZHENGJILIEBUJILIEDOUSHUYUGANRAOXIANG,HEXINSHIHAIZIZIJIYOUMEIYOUSHANGJINDONGLI。YANHUAAIXUEXILAIZIFUMUDEYINDAO。“WOYOUGEGEGE,WOBAHOULAITANYAN,GEGEDEXUEXIGUANLEYIDIAN,WODEXUEXITAYIDIANMEIGUAN,DANSHITAZHUZHONGYINDAO。WOGEXIEZUOYE,WOBAJIURANGWOZUOZAIPANGBIANHUAHUA,DENGWOSHANGXUEDESHIHOU,YIJINGXINGCHENGLEXUEXIXIGUAN。”

YANHUAXIAOSHIHOUXUEXIHENHAO,SHENGBINGBANNIANMEISHANGKE,XIAOXUEBIYEYIRANKAOLEPIANQUDIYIMING。TAZHANGDAHOUCAIXIANGMINGBAI,YINWEIPINGSHISHURUDEZHISHIHENFENGFU。JIALIDAOCHUFANGZHESHU,XIAOHAIHENWULIAO,TAJIAQIJIUBASHUJULIDESHUQUANKANWANLE。XIANZAI,TABAZHEIGEJINGYANYONGLEQILAI。ZHUANGXIUFANGZIDESHIHOU,MEIGEFANGJIANBAOKUOYANGTAIDOUFANGLESHUZHUO,SHUJU、SHUJIAYESHISUISHOUKECHU,YINGZAODUSHUDEFENWEI。“CANZHUOPINGSHISHOUSHIDEHENGANJING,YEBAIZHEYILIUSHU。WOMENSUISHIZUOXIALAI,WULUNNAGEJIAOLUODOUYOUSHUFUDEWEIZHIKANSHUXUEXI。WOXIANZAINENGNACHULAIDUSHUDESHIJIANYIJINGBUDUOLE,DANHAISHIHUIKAN。HAIZIMENKANDAOWOYOUKONGJIUDUSHU,HAOQISHULITOUSHIBUSHIHENHAOWAN,TAMENJIUYUANYIDU。”

(插图 范薇)

 

依旧花了大量心血

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